Way too often I have seen cases where many successful, motivated and enthusiastic people try to pull up their friends and family who are less optimistic about their own future success – but to no avail. If you are
not careful you can waste a lot of your time and energy trying to help negative, unenthusiastic people who don’t even want to help themselves. Nowadays, most people are not willing to work hard, they want an easy 
way out. They want an easy life, so to speak. They don’t want to getup and face the challenges and the struggles that are required to achieve success. Attaining success is not as easy as we have seen those people on social media making it out to be. Success is not easy. It requires discipline, commitment and tremendous effort. But, how many people are willing to put in the required effort day in and day out to achieve what they want? How many people are prepared to work hard for 15-20 years to develop themselves and become who they truly want to be? Surely not the majority!
Many people are looking for a free ride. They are looking for a free lunch. They are trapped in the “I want something for nothing” mentality. Trying to encourage these people to change their mindset is almost, always futile. When you try to encourage them they give you as many excuses as you will listen to. They know all the reasons why things won’t work for them. You have found all the positive examples, success stories and testimonials to try and convince them but they will constantly counteract you with negativity. Sometimes you can feel like you are continuously banging your head against a solid brick wall trying to help these people. But unluckily they can’t see that. They will leave you feeling frustrated and drained. Don’t be angry with them, they are simply not ready to receive what you are saying to them.
You always should try your level best to encourage and support as many people as you can but we should never force anyone to do anything, not even if we think it’s good for them. You must learn when to step back and give people a chance to show you that they are determined and committed to taking action. They need to show you that they care about the results as much as you do and that they are willing to participate in their own rescue. People who are serious about achieving their goals will find a way but those who are not will find an excuse. Worry not yourself and just let them be. One day they will be ready to receive your message. And, this will be the ideal time to help them, as the adage goes, when the student is ready the teach will appear.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dr. Nick
Dr. Nick is a multi-awarding winning tutor, motivational speaker and empowerment coach. He started his career as a schoolteacher followed by becoming a university lecturer but now he uses his skills, knowledge and expertise to help others find their path in life, overcome their challenges and become the best version of themselves. With over 20 years experience, Dr. Nick is a well sought after professional and throughout his career he has successfully empowered 1000s of people across the globe to achieve their true potential.
